Missed Connections has become a phenomenon unto itself. The Center for Missed Connections (which focuses in New York City) collects these moments, turning the wistful postings into charts and graphs, visually exploring trends within the database, as well as high-traffic locations. “Analysis of Craigslist Missed Connections postings and communities offers a glimpse into the loneliness and sexual tension that serve as the linchpin of any thriving metropolitan environment,” the center explains. “The CMC seeks to understand the longing, both poetic and banal, within public spaces.”
The project was started in 2009 as a result of Ingrid Burrington‘s curiosity. “I wanted to know where was the loneliest place in a city. Missed Connections seemed like a pretty obvious way to build a dataset on loneliness in cities. It kind of just snowballed from there,” she tells me.
A few of the CMC’s projects have been taking data from Missed Connections and finding the most common superlatives used in postings (PDF), the relationships between subjects and their seekers (PDF), an analysis of location, as well as probability reports to increase your likelihood of being a Missed Connection (which comes with a one-time $25 fee; Burrington says these aren’t meant to be taken seriously; “It’s kind of like commissioning a portrait, presenting someone in the context of this dataset”).
(Sidenote: I would absolutely love to see some stats on the spike in Missed Connections and Casual Encounters postings that hit the site February 14).
Something about all this has clearly hit a nerve. However, despite the gut instinct pulling us back to Craigslist for relationship hunting, there is some real risk involved – of the infectious disease variety.
New research shows that a rise in sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) can be tied to Craigslist. “Our study results demonstrate that Craigslist, as a minimally regulated online intermediary with no posting costs, increases the number of transactions taking place, including transactions that have undesirable social consequences,” the paper, titled Internet’s Dirty Secret: Assessing the Impact of Technology Shocks on the Outbreaks of Sexually Transmitted Diseases, says. Really, what this is saying in the nicest possible way, is that because Craigslist lets anyone put their dirty little selves out there with no restrictions – save an Internet connection – a hive of scum and villainy is materializing. And it’s full of The Sith the syph (see what I did there?).
The paper found a few rather frightening things, including:
- “The entry of Craigslist creates an 18.8 percent increase in the rate of new syphilis cases…”
- The increase in the AIDs rate is influenced by the number of ‘Men Seeking Men’ ads. The increase in the syphilis rate is influenced by both the number of ‘Men Seeking Women’ and ‘Women Seeking Men’ ads.
- The rise in STD trends caused by Craigslist entry into a given market is attributed to casual encounters solicited via the site and not market-related sexual transactions such as prostitution or escort service activities.” (Which simply means that the hookups you find there – not the ones you pay for – are the cause of this STD climb.)
While researchers also advise that some form of heavier and more dedicated regulation could ease the issue, it’s ridding the platform of the two things that make Craigslist such a magical place that would solve it nearly entirely: Anonymity and its price tag-free existence. Real Internet identity already has a place – Facebook. As does dating with your dollars – every dating site out there. There’s a sort of visceral, tangible change happening in the online hunt for relationships as a reaction to these two options.
We always know what you’re doing, eating, saying, thinking. There is no leaving things up to chance. There is no “if it’s meant to be.”
Problem is labs can be cold, isolating places. These methods, though they clearly work well for some, do take serendipity out of the equation – something that social media has been hastily trying to inject back into our digital lives. The Internet in whole, and lifecasting apps like Facebook, Foursquare, Twitter, Instagram and the like, have killed fate. We always know what you’re doing, eating, saying, thinking. There is no leaving things up to chance. There is no “if it’s meant to be.” We make it be, thanks to social networks and constant connectivity.
But we’re seeing some reactionary products as a result. The recent BangWithFriends app, controversial as it may be, stems from this. And the intersection of social-local-mobile apps like Highlight are trying to pinpoint this tension (and there are a bevy of dating-specific SoLoMo apps out there as well). Even the traditional dating apps are experimenting a bit, breaking out of their charts and graphs to appeal to the romantic in us all: The new OkCupid Crazy Blind Date app hooks you up at the drop of a hat, and Match.com has been featuring group events since last year, well-orchestrated scenes that are more casual, but come with the attached guarantee of finding someone else who’s single.
“[An] advantage of these apps is that many of them revolve around immediate face-to-face interaction, and thus help eliminate one of the shortcomings of dating sites – [like the fact] that you might end up wasting a ton of time and energy interacting with someone online who turns out to be a weirdo or a creeper. Or, more commonly, just someone with whom you don’t have any chemistry in real life,” says Sociology Professor at UC San Diego Kevin Lewis, who focuses on culture and social networks. “These apps often allow immediate contact – and therefore an immediate sense of chemistry, or lack thereof. They are much more efficient in that sense.” Still, he’s not ready to to call this trend the wave of the digital dating future, and points out the fact that the veterans of the online dating market are still creating solid results.
“Even if people might not like a giant, mainstream website like Match.com or eHarmony, at the end of the day it’s hard to argue with the fact of their sheer membership size- and thus, by the numbers, a higher likelihood that someone compatible with you is ‘out there’ somewhere on the site.”
Asking Smith (aka, the Craigslist Conqueror) about this new, fate-favoring trend in digitally-manufactured, romantic serendipity, he offers a theory. “Everyone stops looking for techniques for finding The One once they find him or her,” says Smith. “I believe that the journey usually begins with looking for someone in your immediate social circle. The next is the traditional dating sites. But what happens when you’ve been on all of the traditional dating sites for a year? Two years? Three years?”
“So whatever ‘next thing’ comes along in meeting people gets a try – speed dating, dating apps, Craigslist, whatever. After all, we all know the perfect person is out there, and hope springs eternal that your ‘one’ is just around the corner – perhaps looking for you on the next site, the next app, the next personals ad.”